Nothing makes me angrier than victim blaming. It doesn't matter what someone was wearing, where they were, or whether they were drunk or sober — physical contact must be consensual, period. When we ask survivors "what were you wearing?" we tell every abuser that it isn't their fault. And victim blaming has no gender: male survivors are silenced by the same lies that silence women. When you blame the victim, you side with the abuser. Believe survivors. Speak up. Choose better.

We never really know what we’re capable of until we’re in the situation. Sometimes it’s great to still be surprised with yourself, but if you’re someone living with high anxiety there is nothing worse than the unknown.