DIARY OF A FLOPPING FISH

Emotional validation is the basis on which we all use to feel secure in being ourselves and expressing our feelings. It can form us into confident people or drive us towards codependent tendencies. It determines whether relationships of all kinds thrive or fail. The lack of it forms the basis for gaslighting and the effects contribute the crime rate of society. So, what is it, and how can we become better at it?  What is Emotional Validation? Emotional validation is attem

We look at the news and see war, famine, and police brutality. It is clear that the world is in pain yet we are all too small, too insignificant, to do anything about it. We’re told to focus on the things that we can control as the other route will eventually drive us mad. One by one we all end up looking at some form of self-help so that we can improve ourselves to get rid of those terrible qualities that we saw in others. Many times, we are reacting to something in others t

Much of the reason why it is so hard for me to write this blog or do any of the other creative things I enjoy, is that I suffer from Impostor Syndrome. It doesn’t matter how many English classes I’ve taken, or how much research on the subject I’ve done, I will always feel like a phony. Below I am going to take a look at how this syndrome affects the lives of those who suffer from it, and if there’s any hope to overcome it. Imposter Syndrome is the feeling that you’re not qual

When I wrote “Open the Curtains”, I advised changing three small things if you want change in your life. One of the three things I changed was to write this blog regularly. I have failed; but if I were to dwell on the weeks’ missed then I would beat myself up too much to write any further posts. So, today I am not going to beat myself up. Today I will write you a blog post on procrastination and how to overcome some of the pitfalls. There are many different reasons why pe

If you’re reading this, it is likely because you are trying to come to an understanding about your trauma. Many resources identify the symptoms of different disorders and how to diagnose them, yet there is a limited number of resources on what healing would be like when you begin the journey. We all want to believe that when we walk into the therapist office, we will instantly feel better, when in reality it takes many sessions with a therapist before one begins to have some

We will all encounter a traumatic event at least once. It may be a death, job loss, or many other things. Suffering is intertwined with the human experience, yet we still try to escape it instead of facing it. Some of us seem to weather the storm better than others, but it is not simple to answer why. There are a lot of different factors that affect how we deal with a traumatic event, and the answers are forever evolving. One solid fact remains: We will never be the same pers

Plenty of books and websites provide ideas on how to change bad habits, but what about changing your life instead? Who we are can generally be boiled down into a series of habits. We might see prominent habits in someone like indecisiveness, but the trait is made up of several smaller habits. Addictions are habits, but the kind that take over your life and permeates every part of it. Sometimes the issue is not addiction, but a person’s destructive mentality typically associat